A Threat to Relationships

As I was showering tonight, I thought about my past a little bit. I have usually been the one out of my friends to be single. My friends were the ones who were always in relationships as I watched and observed on the sidelines. I went through in my head what I’ve done and what I’ve been through while I was single and I could write several books on those experiences alone. One particular thing that popped in my head and somewhat bothered me was a situation with a RA (Resident Advisor) of my dorm while I was in college.

First, the RA, who shall remain nameless, was not my RA but an RA in my building. He was as friendly as any RA should be. He was attractive in a dorky kind of way. We chatted from time to time and we had some friends in common (that does happen in a college that houses less than 8,000 students in a small town). One night, a friend of mine dragged me with her to the RA’s room and we all hung out for a bit. For some reason to which I cannot recall, my friend had to leave and she left me with the RA. He made me watch a movie that I was not interested in. What’s a bit interesting was that he didn’t make me watch the movie fully; he skipped through scenes, describing the important parts of the movie. After the description of the movie was over, the RA’s boyfriend came by drunk and we all chatted and hung out for a little while (of course I felt a bit uncomfortable). I went back to my room afterwards and that was the end of that night. I believe about a week later, I heard from people that the RA’s boyfriend was not very fond of me. According to the RA, his boyfriend was afraid I'd pounce on him and pursue to have an affair with him (not his exact words). Ever since, the RA’s boyfriend and I never really spoke except for “Hi’s” and “Goodbye’s.” I just wonder, what exactly threatened the RA’s boyfriend?

Not only has this happened to me with a gay couple, but this has happened to me with my heterosexual friends in relationships. What, you say, do they have against me? I don’t know if I have the answer to that, but I do know for a fact that two of my female friends were aware that their boyfriends were unhappy about them spending time or speaking on the phone with me. Were they scared what ideas I would put in their heads like that they should dump their boyfriends? Were they afraid the girls would want to spend more time with me because all I'm really after are their humps? There are a lot of questions at hand. Still, that does not answer the first question that was brought to light.

If anyone asks my friends about me, they would find out that I’m a friendly, caring individual. People would probably say that I’m easy to talk to and I am protective of my friends and that I'm very modest. I think I may have pinpointed a possible answer. I am friendly. Friendly. Could my friendliness be misinterpreted as being what some people may call a "home wrecker"? Did a supposedly positive personality trait turn into a negative trait in other people’s eyes? That's definitely a huge possibility. Let me know what you think.